Kiss Dating Goodbye?

Not Judgement, Just an excerpt from I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

These are the shortcomings of dating according to Joshua Harris:

1. Dating leads to intimacy, but not necessarily to commitment.

2. Dating tends to skip friendship, which should be the foundation of a stable relationship.

3. Dating focuses on romantic attraction, so it lasts only as long as the romanic feelings remain.

4. Dating focuses on enjoying love and romance solely for their recreational value.

5. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love.

6. Dating takes a lot of time and energy, which can distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future.

7. Dating creates an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character.

In my experiences, though:

1. Unless guarded, dating leads to emotional intimacy that results in sadness and pain once the relationship is over.

2. Relationships built on friendships can be very successful. Dating someone you've known for only a few weeks usually isn't the best idea.

3. There needs to be a balance between dating for fun and carelessly giving your heart away to the person you're dating just because you think you'll end up marrying them.

4. Love is the thing that is still there when you're angry and annoyed and fighting with the person--something that can't be proven until you've been dating the person for a while (longer than 6 months).

5. Dating is done best when it's done amongst friends and family. Don't be too exclusive.

6. It's important to keep loving the activities you love outside of dating this person, don't change who you are for anyone.

7. If you let yourself, you can learn a lot about yourself through dating--even through dating someone you end up breaking up with.

Just thoughts...